How to Help Your Child Attach Positive Emotions to Negative Experiences

As parents, we want nothing more than for our children to be happy and successful in life. But unfortunately, negative experiences are inevitable. It’s important to remember that these experiences can actually be beneficial for our children if we help them attach positive emotions to them. Here’s how you can do that. 


For example, if your child didn’t get chosen for a team he wanted to be on, you could point out that it gives him more time to focus on his other hobbies or spend time with family. 

Bad things happen to everyone. It’s part of life. But it’s important to remember that even in the worst of circumstances, there is always some good that can come out of it. If we open our minds and hearts, we can find lessons and blessings in even the most difficult situations.

That’s why, as parents, it’s so important to talk with our children about the good that can come out of negative situations. When our kids face disappointment or setbacks, we can help them see the silver lining. We can remind them that this is just an opportunity for them to grow and learn. We can help them find the positive in what might seem like a negative situation.

By talking with our children about the good that can come out of bad experiences, we can help them become more resilient and adaptable people. We can help them see challenges as opportunities instead of roadblocks. We can help them find the strength to overcome anything life throws their way.


Help your child see the situation from another perspective.  It’s so important that we help our children understand that everyone makes mistakes. It’s an essential part of life. We all mess up, and we all have bad days. What matters is how we learn from our mistakes and grow from them. If your child is upset about a bad grade on a test, remind him that it’s an opportunity to learn from what went wrong and do better next time. Help him see the situation from another perspective and he’ll be better for it.


After a negative experience, encourage your child to tell himself things like “I’m worth more than this” or “This isn’t the end of the world.”

It is so important to encourage positive self-talk in our children, especially after a negative experience. Too often, we allow our children to dwell on the negative, telling themselves things like “I’m not good enough” or “This is the end of the world.” But that kind of thinking only leads to more negativity and discouragement. Instead, we need to encourage our children to tell themselves things like “I’m worth more than this” or “This isn’t the end of the world.” By doing so, we help them to see the situation in a more positive light and to develop a more optimistic outlook on life. With that kind of positive thinking, they can accomplish anything they set their minds to.


When you’re a parent, it’s your job to set the tone for your family. And one of the most important things you can do is to model positive behavior yourself. Whenever you face a negative experience, share your own story with your child of how you overcame it. This will show him that it’s possible to be happy and successful even when things don’t go your way. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to pretend to be perfect all the time. It’s okay to let your child see you struggle sometimes. But it’s important that he also sees you persevere and come out on top. By modeling positive behavior, you’ll help instill these values in your child and give him the tools he needs to succeed in life.


As a parent, one of the most important things you can do for your children is to help them develop a positive outlook on life. Fortunately, there is a simple way to do this: every night, ask them the nine Magic Questions. The answers to these questions will not only enable your children to gain a beautiful perspective on their life, but they will also help you to get to know them better.

So what are the Magic Questions?